How To Overcome Self Doubt: Unapologetically You Mini Series #4

That little voice whispering, “What if you fail?” or “What if they judge you?” keeps us stuck in self-doubt, looking for answers outside ourselves. But your intuition has been guiding you all along.

In this episode of Unapologetically You Mini Series, we explore how childhood conditioning and societal expectations train us to seek external validation instead of trusting our inner wisdom. Your intuition speaks through your body—an expansive yes or a constricting no. Learning to recognize these signals helps quiet self-doubt and build self-trust.

By keeping small promises to yourself and reflecting on times your intuition led you right, you can start shifting from doubt to confidence. Trust yourself with one small decision today—your inner wisdom already knows the way.

Chapters

• 1:57 Welcome to Unapologetically You
• 3:08 Origins of Self-Doubt
• 6:19 Intuition vs. Fear-Based Thinking
• 8:53 Building Self-Trust Through Commitments
• 11:42 Practical Exercise for Inner Guidance
• 13:49 Weekly Invitation and Looking Ahead

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:59

Welcome back to the Pure Possibilities podcast and the Unapologetically you mini -series that we're right in the middle of. We're diving into episode number four. In the last couple weeks we have explored releasing the need for approval, setting boundaries and speaking our truth, but there's one thing that can really continue to hold us back and that is self-doubt. That little voice that whispers inside of you, aren't you sure? What if you fail? What if they judge you? It keeps us stuck, hesitant and always looking outside of ourselves for the answers. But here's the truth you seriously have the answers within you, those little pings, your intuition, your inner wisdom, and it's always wanting to guide you. But the question is are you listening? Are you open? Are you open to receive those little voices and the nudges that you get? It's there, wanting to guide you and sometimes we just need to open ourselves up to trusting that inner voice. What's interesting about intuition is it is often surprising to the logical mind and when your intuition is coming through to you, it's usually the first thing that comes up before you start breaking it down into your mind and diving into it and dissecting it and overthinking it and analyzing it and processing it. It's that little voice, it's that nudge and it is often surprising. So I recently left my job and it did not make any sense to my logical brain. However, it's what I meant to be doing. This is what I meant to be doing and coaching and helping people and loving on and supporting people as they move through, shifting their life and finding things that make them feel good and creating a life that they actually love and enjoy. But leaving my job to my logical mind, that security, that paycheck, that consistency, that comfort zone, even though it really wasn't very comfortable. It doesn't make any sense to my logical mind, but deep in my heart and soul and my intuition, I was being guided and I chose to listen, because that's what I've been doing over the last several years is following those pings, following those little breadcrumbs, following those nudges, and it's what's guided me here. So today we're going to break down where self-doubt comes from, how to distinguish it from being cautious and like healthy caution and, most importantly, how to start trusting yourself more, because no one knows what's right for you more than you do, and sometimes we don't always believe that, but it's actually true, especially when you're honest with yourself about what you actually want not what other people want for you, but what actually feels good to you, what lights your soul up, all of those things?

Speaker 1: 4:25

Why do we doubt ourselves in the first place? A lot of it starts in childhood and I know that that comes up a lot for people, but it really does. We're raised to seek approval from other people, to listen to authority figures, to follow the right path and don't make mistakes. We aren't necessarily taught how to really listen to ourselves. Then society reinforces the idea that we need certainty before we can act, when actually the possibilities that are on the other side of the unknown are magical. So we're told to wait until we're qualified, wait until we have all the information before we take a step forward. But that's impossible because our growth truly happens through us taking the step and taking action.

Speaker 1: 5:10

Aligned action, but taking action, the action that feels good for you and your body. Listening to our body communicate with us is really important. When we're making decisions about things, again, that oh my God, this is a hell yes moment, or oh, that tight and constricting no, that doesn't feel good. That's your body communicating with you and your intuition. So if self-doubt keeps us stuck, how do we move through that and start to actually trust ourselves. Your intuition is that deep inner knowing, that part of you that senses what's right, before your mind goes into that, analyzing and processing those gut feelings that nudge you forward, before the actual logic kicks in, the logic the mind really trying to cause. Your mind is trying to keep you safe and so it starts to tell you all of the reasons why you shouldn't do something. And this is so, so normal, like let's just normalize that because we built all of these protections around us when we were younger to keep us safe around us when we were younger, to keep us safe, feeling safe in our body. And part of this is learning how to kind of chip away at some of that and take those steps. And then, as you take those steps, you start to feel safer in your body. When you are getting those nudges and those pings and that intuition, we often ignore that, we rationalize it, we seek out other opinions from people, we let our fear drown it out.

Speaker 1: 6:55

The first step to trusting yourself more is learning to differentiate between fear-based thinking and true intuition. So fear feels heavy and anxious and uncertain. It can be wrapped up in like the worst case scenario and those negative what ifs rather than the positive what ifs that I like to talk about. Our intuition is actually clear and kind and loving, and it's quiet and often surprising. It's that pull towards something that deep knowing inside of you doesn't need justification. So learning to trust yourself. It's not about having all of the answers. It's that deep knowing inside of you that you know, no matter what you can handle, whatever happens. No matter what you can handle whatever happens. It may not happen the way you expect, but it's knowing that you'll be able to move through it, regardless of the outcome. Regardless of the outcome, you are stronger than you realize.

Speaker 1: 8:03

Keep promises to yourself. If you say that you're gonna do something, follow through with it. Even tiny little commitments like I'm going to drink more water today, I'm going to choose. Maybe be a little more specific. I'm going to choose to drink eight ounces more water today. I'm going to choose to. I started doing yoga again a couple of weeks ago. I'm choosing to do yoga every day and I have made that commitment to myself. And each time I honor a commitment that I make to myself, I begin to trust myself a little bit more. When you learn to trust yourself with the small things, it helps when you're making decisions about the bigger things in life, but honoring yourself and keeping those promises you make to yourself.

Speaker 1: 8:47

Reflect back on a time in the past where you did trust yourself and it worked out. Your intuition has been guiding you much longer than you realize. So let's try something right now to strengthen that inner trust. So I'm going to invite you to take a deep breath in, let it out and place your hand on your heart if that feels comfortable for you, and feel that steady rhythm of your heart beating. Now ask yourself what is one small way I can trust myself today? Don't force the answer. Just allow whatever is going to come through to come through. And maybe it's speaking up in a conversation, maybe it's following through on an idea, maybe it's simply listening to your gut that hell yes on a decision. Whatever it is, trust it, don't overthink it, don't analyze it, don't go and process all of the things. Think it, don't analyze it, don't go and process all of the things. The more you listen, the louder that inner wisdom and that intuition. You're going to start to hear it more and more clearly.

Speaker 1: 10:05

Self-doubt is normal. It's normal. I had something happen the other day where I was so super excited and jazzed about something in the morning and by the end of the night I was crying and questioning everything and I allowed myself to cry and I wrote it out and I moved my way through it. But it is so normal to doubt yourself. But it doesn't have to run the show. You can trust yourself. You do have all the answers. You don't need to ask everybody else their opinion, their advice, what they think. Trust yourself and you could even take a moment where there's something that maybe you would ask somebody else their opinion or advice for and actually just ask yourself and see what the answer is and what if you actually do have the answers inside of you. This week, I would invite you to notice when self-doubt is creeping in and, instead of spiraling out, pause and ask yourself what if I trusted myself in this moment? Pause and ask yourself what if I trusted myself in this moment?

Speaker 1: 11:18

Next week, we're going to dive into embodying these practices as well as radical self-acceptance, and you know, not only is radical self-acceptance important, but radical self-honesty. We aren't able to make the shifts when we're not honest with ourselves. I hope this was helpful for you today. Self-doubt is a bugger, I tell you. It shows up in so many ways, but when we're aware of it we can shift it. So okay, here we go.

Speaker 1: 11:51

We are going to pull a card from the magic of what If, card deck volume two, available on my website, purepossibilitiespodcastcom or purepossibilitiesnet. And today's card is what if I am creating a life full of abundance and happiness right now? What does abundance mean to you? I feel so incredibly abundant in my life, and it's not financial. Abundance is what I'm talking. I know oftentimes people will think of abundance and they think of money, and for me it's, and for me it's relationships with people and the beauty of the day and music and fun and possibility all the possibilities. What if I'm creating a life full of abundance and happiness right now? Thank you so much for listening. No-transcript.