What If I Allow Myself To Be A Beginner?

Have you ever found yourself in unfamiliar territory, feeling like a total beginner despite years of experience? That’s where I am—after leaving a career I had mastered to step fully into coaching and podcasting. The shift from expert to newbie has been humbling, frustrating, and surprisingly freeing.

I went from confidently teaching others to fumbling through tech, launches, and unfamiliar platforms. It’s uncomfortable—but also a reminder that transformation requires beginning again. So many of us avoid starting over out of fear—of failing, looking foolish, or getting it wrong. But what if being a beginner is exactly where our next breakthrough lives?

In this episode, I’m sharing the messy, beautiful truth of becoming. Whether you're building a business, changing paths, or simply trying something new, know this: you’re not behind. You’re right on time—for something brand new.

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome & Reflecting on the Year
• 4:09 From Expert to Beginner
• 8:43 Fear of Not Knowing
• 10:37 Reframing the Beginner's Mindset
• 13:20 Practical Ways to Embrace Beginning
• 18:09 Final Thoughts on Starting Fresh

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:00

Welcome back to the Pure Possibilities podcast. I hope you've had an incredible week. We just wrapped up the Unapologetically you miniseries last week, which I loved, and before that we did Feeling your Way Into the New Year. So this recording is happening on April 7th, the end of Mercury Retrograde. So I'm curious we're four months in now into the year. How are you doing with feeling your way into the new year? I'm curious, drop me a note in a little text box in the show description and let me know how you're doing feeling your way into the new year.

Speaker 1: 1:40

There's a lot of things going on around us, and so it is so important that we know deep within us that we always have the power to reconnect to ourselves when all of the chaos is going on outside of us. So remember that I actually just popped on and did a story about just stopping and breathing because I was feeling a little bit of ah in my body and decided that it was really important to stop and pause and breathe, because you always have the opportunity to intentionally breathe to regulate your nervous system. So I invite you to do that. When you are feeling a little bit off, you can also always shake your ass, because, well, that's always a good go-to for me. We're going to take a little pause on the mini-series situation for, I don't know, a week or two We'll see what happens. I just kind of flow with whatever feels good, and right now it feels good to talk about some things that are happening in real time in my life in this moment.

Speaker 1: 2:52

As many of you know, I recently left my career to go all in on coaching and podcasting and all of the things that are magnificent and make me feel good, and to go along with that. I have gone from knowing everything to feeling like I know nothing, and I want to talk about what it's like to be a beginner again, about not knowing everything, about starting over and letting that be enough. So recently I have found myself going from this space of literally knowing how to do everything, having the resources available, knowing exactly where I needed to go when I needed an answer to something. I was always teaching people things, and honestly, every day which is kind of wild to say, but every day I always had the intention to either learn something new or teach somebody something new, and I navigated my entire career that way and it made it a little more fun. So there's a little tip for you going to every day what can I learn or what can I teach today, anyway, so I've moved into this very unfamiliar, uncomfortable space of starting a business and building new systems and launching offers and learning platforms and tech, and suddenly I'm like, oh my gosh, what am I doing? I have no idea what I'm doing, and so I still have continued to infuse that learning or teaching and actually creating fun into my day, so that, when I find myself in a space of frustration and overwhelm, I pause and I take a step back, maybe I step away, and it's all been very humbling, all been very humbling, and I've also found that there's something inside of me that, although I have moments of frustration or the not knowing, I know deep within me that I always figure it out and, honestly, launching the podcast was a huge part of that for me all of the stumbling behind, learning how to do this, and it's just such a great reminder of you have to start somewhere right.

Speaker 1: 5:44

We don't know all the things all the time and I was going back through I don't know. Some memories popped up in my old photos and I came across a video from 2020, where I it was, when I first started creating videos online and I was terrified. I was so scared. But I was out on a walk and it was during the pandemic and I was looking around at all these big, beautiful trees and I was like, oh my gosh, people need to see this. And so I like popped in and recorded really quick and then I posted it and that just kind of started things for me, really putting myself out there and using my voice, because I found that it had an impact, because people were not in a great space mentally during that time and I knew that what I was doing every day could, if it could, just brighten somebody's day just a little bit more. It made me feel good, and so that's kind of where I really started to allow myself to be uncomfortable and know that when I move through that it gets a little bit easier.

Speaker 1: 7:06

And so all of this being a beginner again has really brought up a lot of that for me, because I know that I'm an amazing coach and I also know that I'm very new at learning how to start a business, and so I don't believe that we talk enough about the fear that comes behind the not knowing, and the fear of not knowing can sound like. What if I mess up? What if I look stupid? What if I can't figure this out and I fail? What will people think if I don't get it right the first time? That fear often keeps us stuck. That fear often keeps us stuck. But what if being a beginner is exactly where your next breakthrough lives? I have a story. So I hosted a workshop a couple of months ago and I had technical difficulties. I was trying to do it on Zoom with music and slides and all the things, and I didn't do it perfectly, but I rolled with it.

Speaker 1: 8:23

Because when we allow ourselves to be a beginner, to just take the step and move our way through it, the next time it's a little bit easier and you can take what you've learned from whatever that situation is and carry it into the next phase or the next time that you have that opportunity to do whatever you're doing. Sometimes you surprise yourself at how much you may already know that you don't realize and just being proud of you for taking a step, whether it goes the way you expect it or want it to, or if it doesn't, many people are more afraid of their success than their failures. And what if we use those quote unquote failures to just learn and grow and shake it off Like it's no big deal. It really isn't. The fact that you even made the effort and took the step, that's what matters. That's what matters, matters, that's what matters. So how do we reframe?

Speaker 1: 9:39

When I first started creating from this space, I noticed how often I wanted to like I just want to be at the end, I want to rush through the learning part, but that's not how transformation works, which is such a bummer and also beautiful, because the gift that's available to you is in the becoming and in the journey, and becoming requires being a beginner and becoming requires beginning. Being a beginner invites curiosity, creativity and presence. There's no autopilot in this phase. It's all fresh, it's all new, and it can be clunky and uncomfortable and also full of amazing possibilities. I was having a conversation with a friend of mine recently and she was asking me different aspects of my business and I was pondering how to respond to her question and I got really excited and I was like it can be anything I want it to be. I think it's going to be a little bit of this and a little bit of that, and, knowing that, I can allow it to flow however feels good for me, and when something isn't feeling right, I can pivot to something else, so it's not being locked in to a final destination and a final like exactly how is this going to look? Allow it to flow, allow yourself to move through it with ease and follow your body with what actually feels good for you.

Speaker 1: 11:26

And maybe you're not leaving your career and starting a business, but you can apply this to any area of your life that you're changing, or allowing yourself to be a beginner in Any change that you're making. You could apply this to, because whenever we're starting something new, we are a beginner. We learned to crawl before we walked and we're a little bit unstable, and as we continue on, we gain the experience and we learn along the way. So some practical ways to embrace being a beginner name the fear without feeding it. Adopt a learner's mindset. The fear without feeding it. Adopt a learner's mindset. Allow space for mistakes. Allow yourself to make mistakes and then get curious about what. Could you maybe do different next time? It's really not a big deal unless you decide it's going to be a big deal.

Speaker 1: 12:29

Allow yourself to celebrate your successes. Allow yourself to celebrate your successes. Allow yourself to celebrate your successes. Every day. There's something and again this applies to just normal daily life Celebrate your wins, celebrate yourself.

Speaker 1: 12:46

It may seem silly, but maybe it's something simple, like I didn't lose my shit on somebody today Yay me, that's amazing. Or maybe I reached out to a friend today. Maybe I allowed myself to just be. Maybe I stepped away when I felt my body feeling constricted and stressed out and I went out and did something else. Maybe I got up and shook my ass to move the energy in my body, feeling constricted and stressed out, and I went out and did something else. Maybe I got up and shook my ass to move the energy in my body. Surround yourself with grace. Allow yourself to be a beginner. So what if being a beginner is exactly what leads you to the version of you that you've been dreaming of becoming? Because you are not behind. You're at the beginning of something absolutely beautiful, because, if your heart and soul desires it, it's there and available for you. It truly, truly is. You can also ask for help. You know there might be somebody out there that knows how to do what you're trying to do and ask them for help.

Speaker 1: 14:03

I am surrounded by entrepreneurs and I feel like from my space. I feel like from my way through learning, because Because it does take a little bit of time to figure out some of the back end tasks, until I'm in a space to be able to hire people to do those and knowing that there are some basic foundational steps that need to happen in order to move to the next step, and also I can be doing some of the things that I want to be doing at the same time, like they can coexist together. Maybe you're not starting a business, maybe you're starting a new job, maybe you are taking a class and you've never done it before. This happened to me a couple of times when I was doing like a paint and sip and I'd never done it before and I'd never done it before and you see the example that the instructor has created and then you look at this canvas that has like a. You can make it whatever you want it to be. And when I released the perfectionist side of me that it had to look a certain way, it was very freeing and it allowed me to just simply create.

Speaker 1: 16:29

So when you are finding yourself in a space of being a beginner, remember that it's okay to step away for a moment. It's okay to not have all the answers. It's okay to do it messy and make mistakes along the way. And are they really mistakes or are they learning opportunities? And are they really mistakes or are they learning opportunities? And sometimes you might stumble onto something that ends up being more magical than you had even planned. Most of the time, that's what really happens. But what if just taking the step and allowing yourself to be a beginner is what changes everything? I'm not going to pull a card this week, because this episode was full of what ifs, so I will leave you with what if you allow yourself to be a beginner. Hope you have a beautiful, beautiful day and an amazing week. Much love.