Why You Stopped Feeling Good - Taking Back Your Power: Feel Good Series #2

Life can get ridiculously loud, and responsibilities can stack up until you can’t even hear yourself think — but let’s be clear: the part of you that knows how to feel good is still alive and kicking underneath all of it.

Most of us were conditioned to believe that slowing down is selfish, that hustling matters more than actually living, and that feeling good is some kind of prize you have to earn. That’s a lie — and it’s time to call it what it is.

Here’s what’s real:
• Radical responsibility for your life is non-negotiable if you want real change.
• Being brutally honest (with love) about where you are and what you want is where the magic happens.
• Your ability to feel good didn’t get lost — it’s right there, waiting for you to claim it.
• Feeling good isn’t about life slowing down or people treating you better — it’s an inside job.
• You’re worthy of feeling good because you’re alive. Full stop. No conditions. No earning required.

If you're ready to take a real look at this, journal on these questions:
 🔥 "If feeling good were safe and allowed, what would I want more of in my life?"
 🔥 "Where am I being invited to be radically honest with myself right now?"

Chapters

• 0:00 Tech Issues and Real Life Moments
• 2:55 Why You Stopped Feeling Good
• 4:26 Taking Radical Responsibility
• 7:26 Honesty With Yourself Changes Everything
• 10:12 Permission to Feel Good Again
• 13:05 What If Everything You Desire

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:00

All right, that's better. Welcome to the Pure Possibilities podcast. I was sitting here recording and I'm like I can't hear anything. So this feels a little bit weird and so I like did a test record and I listened back and there was nothing. There was nothing. So I figured I could take this part out or I could leave it in and we can just continue on, because you know what, sometimes it's helpful to know that, like I'm a real person and real life and techie things happen. So there is hopefully a little laugh and some entertainment for you.

Speaker 1: 1:40

Today. It's kind of been one of those tech heavy days for me, and so I actually just did some shaking of my arms and some intentional breathing and it felt really good. So, welcome back. We are going to dive into something really important in the feel good again series why you stopped feeling good and how you're taking your power back. And if you're thinking, oh, it feels so far away, shannon, stay with me.

Speaker 1: 2:16

And today isn't about blame, guilt or shame. It's about hope and honesty and real, true empowerment. So here's the truth. Life gets loud and lifey and responsibilities pile up, the expectations, the stress, the heartbreak. It all just adds layer after layer after layer and somewhere, under all the noise, your natural ability to feel good. It just, it's quieter. It didn't disappear, it didn't break. It's still there, waiting to be uncovered.

Speaker 1: 2:54

So many of us were taught that slowing down is selfish. Being productive matters more than being truly, truly present in the moment, and feeling good is something you have to earn, not something that you're allowed to prioritize. That's a pretty big one, I think. And eventually exhaustion, disappointment and survival mode kind of become our normal, and then joy and feeling really good feels harder to reach, and then joy and feeling really good feels harder to reach, and then you start to feel really disconnected. And it's not your fault. But what happens next? While there could be reasons outside of you and there likely are that might have dimmed your spark that doesn't remove the word responsibility feels a little bit heavy to me. But you have the opportunity and yeah, I'm going to say responsibility to shift that. If you don't feel good, that power is within you and so, although it might not be your fault, you have the responsibility to shift it. If that's what you want to do, you have the responsibility to shift it if that's what you want to do. That's where you get to choose to take back your power. This is where we're going to get kind of real, taking personal, radical responsibility for your life. Is that bridge between where you are now and where you want to go. It's about getting honest with yourself, about what you want, where you are and about the shifts that you're willing to take. And are you making that decision? Are you just interested in it, or are you actually committed to making a shift?

Speaker 1: 4:39

So here's the part that I really want you to hear your ability to feel good didn't actually disappear. It doesn't just go away. It doesn't just vanish because you hit a certain age or you're at a certain point in your life. It's still there, underneath the noise, under the pressure, under the old stories, and over the next few weeks we're going to get a little playful with finding it again, one tiny moment at a time.

Speaker 1: 5:06

And so the questions that we ask ourselves are really important and being honest with yourself. I cannot express how important I believe it is to be radically honest with yourself If you want something to change in your life. We are not always honest with other people. That's a very true statement, but if you're not honest with yourself, your life and your circumstances are not going to change. That's a pretty bold statement, I know, but I believe that to be true. But when you take personal responsibility for your life and for the decisions that you've made, and, again, while circumstances might have put you into a certain situation, you get to choose how you're going to respond or shift the things that happen in your life. And so when we are honest with ourselves about what we actually want, where we're at in our life, where we want to be and how, maybe something that had happened again, maybe it wasn't your fault per se, but how did you choose to respond to it or what did you do to contribute? Here's kind of a little story of mine. So one of my biggest shifts in my life happened I've talked about it before on the show when two really important relationships ended in my life. Two really important relationships ended in my life, and it's always really easy to point fingers at people and become a victim in our life based off of the circumstances of things that happen around us.

Speaker 1: 6:50

And once I really took a look inside and owned my I mean relationships and for all kinds of reasons, right and like. You can be a victim if you choose to be, or you can take a look and say, okay, what did? How did I possibly contribute to this? And for me, I had had several relationships over life that maybe didn't work out. I learned a lot through them and I have no regrets. They have all led me to where I'm at now and also there were things that I could have done differently.

Speaker 1: 7:33

And once I really took a look at, oh my gosh, there's a common factor here and that's me. That was a huge thing for me. Like I, I owned it with myself. I didn't go out and have conversations with everybody, because you don't necessarily need to do that, but taking a look at yourself and what you may or may not have done to contribute, all that does is help your future relationships. So when I realized I had certain patterns and fears and beliefs and choices that had contributed to all of that and again, once you become aware, you can make changes. So it definitely was uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable to get honest with yourself, but we don't have to go around telling everybody but, like, be honest with yourself. It's uncomfortable but it's also really empowering because it means you can change. You know, and when we own it, then it shifts our future choices and relationships, including the most important relationship, which is the one with yourself, and when you're aware of how you're showing up for yourself and for the people in your life and how your patterns and beliefs might be impacting those relationships, that's it's a big deal. It's a big deal. So here is the most beautiful part of all of this Feeling good Isn't something that you have to wait for anyone else to do something.

Speaker 1: 9:14

It's not about waiting for life to slow down or for people to behave differently or for circumstances to be perfect. It's about deciding. I'm willing to start honoring what feels good for me today. You don't have to fix everything overnight. You don't have to force yourself to just like, pretend it's all fine. You just need to be honest with yourself. The questions that we ask ourselves are really important and give yourself permission to choose differently.

Speaker 1: 9:46

So this week, I invite you to journal on two questions If it feels good for you. If it doesn't, that's cool too. The first one is if feeling good, we're safe and allowed, what would I want more of in my life? And then question number two where am I being invited to be radically honest with myself right now? I would highly recommend, if you're going to choose to journal these questions, that you allow yourself a moment to close your eyes and take a deep breath in and hold it and then release, and do that a couple of times and then, after you journal, do it again, take a deep breath in, hold it and then release. Beautiful action step for you is do one small thing that feels good today, simply because you can, not because you finished your to-do list, not because you earned it, simply because you are worthy of it. And if you need a permission slip to feel good again, here it is because you are worthy of it. And if you need a permission slip to feel good again, here it is. You are allowed to feel good. You are allowed to want more. You are allowed to choose yourself, signed with so much love by you and a little extra love from me too. So next week we're going to talk about how to gently shift your emotional frequency, without pretending, forcing or bypassing your real experience, because really feeling good, it's sustainable, it's honest and it's yours to create.

Speaker 1: 11:47

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Speaker 1: 12:24

So we are going to now pull a card from the magic of what if? Card deck volume two, available on my website, pure possibilities podcastcom or pure possibilitiesnet. So today's card is what if everything I desire is on its way to me right now? Hmm, oh, that feels. That feels good to me. Until next week. Keep choosing moments that feel good. You are magical. We just need to dust things off a little bit and help you find your spark. You're not behind, you're not broken. You're on the way back to reconnecting with yourself and getting to know yourself again. Hope you have an amazing day and a magical week. Much love.