Shifting Your Emotional Frequency - Feel Good Again Series #5

In today’s episode, we explore what it really means to shift your emotional state - not by bypassing or faking it, but by honoring what’s true and finding your way to what feels a little bit better.

I share a personal story about a recent nervous system release where anger unexpectedly came up for me. I didn’t analyze or try to fix it. I simply felt it. And that’s the message today:

 We don’t always need to know why we’re feeling an emotion — just that it needs to be felt.

You’ll learn how to:

• Shift gently without forcing it
• Recognize what frequency you're currently holding
• Move toward feeling good again with small, honest steps

This isn’t about pretending. It’s about choosing - with compassion - where you want to go next emotionally.

Journaling Prompt:
What emotion have I been trying to skip over, suppress, or fix lately?
What might it be trying to teach or release?

Aligned Action Step:
Notice your emotional frequency today without judgment. Ask yourself: What would feel just a little bit better right now?  Choose one tiny action in that direction - a breath, a break, a moment of honesty - and take it.

This is one of those episodes that gently shifts something inside you — without pressure, without rush. Tune in when you're ready to reconnect to your inner emotional landscape. 💛

Chapters

• 1:56 Introduction to Shifting Emotional Frequency
• 4:18 Feeling vs Fixing Your Emotions
• 7:28 Gentle Shifting for Nervous System Healing
• 10:27 Practical Tools for Emotional Shifts
• 12:41 Personal Story and Card Pull
• 16:14 Final Thoughts on Emotional Freedom

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:58

Welcome back to the Pure Possibilities podcast and the Feel Good Again series. Last week, we explored how your body remembers the unspoken stories it holds and the signals that it sends, and how learning to listen to those messages is the start of reconnecting back to you. Today, we're going to build on that by exploring how to gently shift your emotional frequency. Yes, we're finally getting to this. I know it's taken a couple of extra weeks. When we gently shift your emotional frequency, we're not pretending, we're not bypassing things. It's not like a fake it till you make it kind of thing or oh, just think positive and that'll make everything okay. I honestly went down that path for a while actually several years ago and it felt good in the moment, but it wasn't real and I was burying a lot of my feelings by doing that. And so now I'm in a much healthier space where I actually feel what I'm feeling and allow those emotions to come up and express them. And that's where you don't want to bypass what you're actually feeling and the emotions that are coming up. What we're wanting to really tap into is not attaching the stories and then going down a path of spiraling, so it's really more about the consciousness and awareness and allowing yourself to feel what you're feeling. We want to be grounded in a way that honors what you feel and support you in moving forward gently, not just moving past everything that you're feeling and the emotions that are coming up. Before we dive into the tools and the mindset shifts, I want to say upfront it's not about fixing yourself Again. You're not broken. There's nothing wrong with you. This is about creating space, capacity, safety and choice. You are always, always at choice. I obviously offer so many different ideas of things that you can do or try, but please honor yourself and what actually feels good for you, because just because something works for me doesn't mean it's necessarily going to work for you. So I want to talk a little bit about the fact that you don't actually need to fix your feelings. You want to feel them. We've been taught to label them. You know happy is good, sad is bad, confident is good, being anxious is weak, but those aren't problems. Those are actually signals and their information, and when we use our emotions to inform us and guide us, then it helps us to move forward in a healthier way. Emotions are energy, energy in motion. They are meant to move. So when we suppress them, ignore them or shame them. That creates stuck energy and that's what causes us to feel heavy or off or completely disconnected from ourselves. The goal isn't to feel good all of the time. It's to be aware and know how to tend to yourself when you don't feel good, so that you can make that shift when you're ready to. It's not about bypassing. It's about honoring how you truly feel and the emotions that are coming up.

Speaker 1: 4:35

It was interesting this last week I was doing a nervous system practice to do a release. There's a couple of things that I'm moving through right now and I created a space to intentionally be, still, move the energy and breathe, and it was really interesting because what actually came up for me was anger, and it was surprising to me because I was like where did that come from? I didn't realize I was angry and I had anger in my body that needed to be released, and so when things like that come up, we don't need to know why Like I didn't need to know why that was there All I needed to know is that it was there and it needed to be felt. No clear story, no obvious reason, just deep rising anger that had been waiting for me to allow it to come up. So I didn't analyze it, I didn't try and figure out where it came from or what it meant. I just allowed it to move and I stayed curious. I let my body release, I breathed, I screamed into a pillow, I sighed just like a big and let it out, and I didn't try to make sense of it, I just allowed myself to feel it.

Speaker 1: 6:10

We don't need to understand why. We just need to allow it to be there, let it be seen, felt, honored and released. That is when you are in emotional integrity with yourself. That is nervous system healing and that is shifting. So what does it mean to really shift gently? So our nervous system is there to protect us and it's not built for big, dramatic leaps, especially when you're overwhelmed. That's why I use the word gently. A gentle shift could be putting your bare feet on the ground. It could be drinking water and putting your hand on your heart, playing a song that either softens you or lifts you up and moves the energy in your body. It could simply be saying to yourself I'm allowed to feel this and I'm also allowed to want relief from whatever it is that I'm feeling. Again, you don't need to know why. Just being connected to the fact that you're feeling, whatever you're feeling, it's a small compassionate pivot, not an escape. You don't have to go from I feel awful to I'm totally fine and everything's amazing. But what if you could go from feeling numb to just maybe a little bit curious, from feeling shame to just being in a neutral space? Those are real shifts and that's how emotional frequency changes just gentle, small shifts.

Speaker 1: 7:52

A big part of what really keeps us stuck in emotional discomfort is being out of integrity with ourselves. We want rest, but then we keep pushing ourselves. We crave honesty, but we keep putting on an act and performing for other people. We desire connection, yet we isolate ourselves and numb ourselves through various things, and so we feel off and we feel agitated and stuck. Your emotions often reflect the tension between what your body actually knows and what actions you're ignoring. So I would invite you to start asking what's out of alignment right now. What am I out of integrity with myself? Am I saying one thing and doing another? Not to judge, but to shift it gently back into being honest with yourself.

Speaker 1: 8:49

So let me offer you a couple of ideas of different things that you could try today. Let's start with the three breath check-in. So one to notice how you feel, one to offer kindness and compassion to yourself yourself and one to choose what you need next. The next thing you could do is name your emotion, without judgment. I feel blank, and that's okay. Naming gives it form and form allows it to move. And then a couple of micro actions that could shift your frequency open a window, wrap yourself up in a cozy blanket, dance to a song, say something loving to yourself out loud. Each one of those is a way to reset your frequency. And small doesn't mean it's insignificant. Small is powerful when you're present with it.

Speaker 1: 9:46

Okay, we are going to move on to the journaling prompts for the week. So a journaling prompt for this week is what's one emotion I've been resisting and what might shift if I simply allow myself to feel it without fixing it, if I simply allow myself to feel it without fixing it? And sometimes, as I mentioned earlier, like with my example, I knew that, like I know that I'm moving through some things, but I didn't. I just knew that I needed to do something to regulate my nervous system, and so I did a certain practice and then that emotion of anger came up and I don't generally feel like I'm a very angry person, but there's clearly something deep inside of my body that needed to be released. And your action step for the week is going to be choose one small action that could raise your emotional frequency today, even just by 5%. Raise your emotional frequency today, even just by 5%. Do it, reflect and then ask yourself how do I feel now?

Speaker 1: 10:51

Okay, so we are going to move into a card poll this week. I'm going to actually pull from the magic of what if card deck volume one. We haven't pulled from that deck for a while. The card decks are available on my website, pure possibilities podcastcom or pure possibilitiesnet. All right, so the card for this week. So funny, every time I go to shuffle the card, something comes up for me that I always feel like I want to interrupt myself to talk about.

Speaker 1: 11:25

I had registered for a thing for this weekend, an educational thing. I'm always always wanting to learn and expand my knowledge and I registered for it a few months ago and we've obviously been focusing on listening to your body, talk and you know, feeling your feelings and and all of these things, which is obviously something that I do on a very regular basis, but I've been incredibly connected to myself recently with all of the shifts that have been happening in my life, and I got onto this call this morning and I sat there and I was there for a while and I was feeling agitated and annoyed and like in a massive space of judgment and I was like this feels icky, this doesn't feel good to me, and like I just wasn't connecting with what was going on, like they weren't doing anything wrong, but for some reason it was not. It was not for me and I it was like a visceral feeling in my body. And so when I say you know, your body knows it, knows the hell, yes and the hell no, like but are you paying attention to it? And so I I did get curious with myself because I was like, okay, am I in resistance here about something, or is this really just not for me? And so I stayed for a few hours to like feel it out.

Speaker 1: 12:55

But it's literally an all weekend event and I was like this is not what I want to be doing right now. And so I didn't go back after the lunch break and I don't intend to attend for the next two days, because it just didn't feel in alignment for me and I'm sure there's amazing information there didn't feel in alignment for me, and I'm sure there's amazing information there, but for some reason I was not connecting with it. And so I'm honoring that and being in integrity with myself, because I'm not going to sit there and just torture myself not feeling good because it was something that I said I was going to do. I'm allowed to change my mind and do what feels good for me. So, all right, now I'm going to pull the card.

Speaker 1: 13:43

What if I pour more love and passion into all that I do? What if I pour more love and passion into all that I do? It's easy to put passion into the things that you love, I feel like. I mean, for me it is. And again, that kind of connects back with connecting with your body and and following following the things that feel good, because when it feels good, it doesn't feel like work. When it feels good, it's fun and joyful and you have a good time, you know. So hopefully, you pour more love and passion into all that you do as well. All right, we're going to wrap things up for this week. All right, we're going to wrap things up for this week. We are not climbing an emotional mountain. We are slowly moving our emotional frequency up a ladder, not from the bottom all the way to the top, just taking one honest, present, aligned step.

Speaker 1: 14:52

Feeling good again doesn't require you to be perfect. It literally is just asking you to be real and honest and gentle with yourself. Let this be a reminder. You are allowed to feel it all. You're allowed to want to feel better. You're allowed to take your time getting there and the next right feeling is just one breath away, one choice, one shift, one decision. And if you do find that you have anger coming up, please make sure that you are in a safe space to release that anger.

Speaker 1: 15:31

Sometimes I scream into a pillow or hit a pillow with my hands or dance it out to like ragey kind of music. Various places have what they call like a rage room where you can go and safely break things. I've been wanting to do that. I haven't done that yet. Just make sure that you're doing it in a safe way. If that's something that you feel like you need to do, I also have a like a weighted ball where I'll like stand with my legs hip width apart and then I take the ball. It's like a 15 pound ball and I just like slam it onto the floor and just like you know, you know, kind of like, even honestly, even just like grunting, like that is an amazing way to just release stuck energy. All right, thank you so much for listening in to this week's episode and I hope you have a beautiful, beautiful day and an amazing week. Much love.