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The Pure Possibilities Podcast is an invitation to pause, notice what’s happening within you, and get curious about what else might be possible.
Each week, Shannon Danielle explores the beliefs, patterns, relationships, nervous system responses, and everyday choices shaping how you experience your life. Through personal stories, meaningful conversations, practical tools, and occasional guests, you’ll deepen your awareness, build greater self-trust, and begin creating change that lasts beyond the moment.
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What is the voice in your head really trying to tell you?
We all have thoughts running through our minds, but they aren't necessarily all coming from the same place. Sometimes it's intuition. Sometimes it's an old belief, your inner critic, or a protective part of you trying to keep you safe. And sometimes we've thought something so many times that we've stopped questioning whether it's even true.
In this episode, we're getting curious about how to recognize the difference. I share how I experience intuition as kind, loving, compassionate, and sometimes surprising or direct, and why loving guidance doesn't always mean hearing what you want to hear. We also explore the different ways your inner critic can show up, what it may actually be trying to protect you from, and why listening to yourself doesn't mean believing every thought you have.
We all have an inner critic, but it doesn’t sound the same for everyone. Take my free Inner Critic Quiz to discover how yours tends to show up, what it may be trying to protect you from, and how greater awareness can help you recognize when that voice is running the conversation.
We also talk about the messages we receive through our bodies, why nervousness and excitement can sometimes feel very similar, and how Pause, Notice, Reconnect, Respond can create the space to get curious before deciding what a thought or sensation means.
Because learning to listen to yourself isn't only about listening more closely. It's also about learning who you're listening to.
✨Reflection Questions✨
When I notice the voice in my head, how does it usually speak to me? What's the tone?
What might that voice be trying to protect me from?
How do I recognize my intuition when it comes through?
What if, instead of immediately believing or dismissing the voice in your head, you paused long enough to ask: What are you really trying to tell me?
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You're listening to the Pure Possibilities podcast, and I'm your host, Shannon. So this is really funny. I actually recorded a 20-minute episode and apparently had my mic muted, which is totally ironic.
Well, maybe it's ironic, maybe it's not, but it's funny to me because the topic of today's conversation is the voice in our head. Because we all have a voice in our head. Actually, we probably have a few of them. And I've been thinking about this a lot lately because I've been working on something new around the inner critic and getting really curious about the different ways that that voice can show up for us. Because sometimes it's really obvious. You screw something up and immediately hear, oh my God, I'm such an idiot. Kind of like accidentally not unmuting my mic before I record a podcast episode. And sometimes the voice in our head sounds completely reasonable. It sounds like us. We've heard it so many times that we don't even recognize it as a voice anymore. It just is what we think. It's the voice that we hear. And I think that's where it gets really interesting. Because what is that voice actually trying to tell you? Is it your intuition? Is it an old belief that keeps getting recycled? Is it your inner critic? Is there a part of you trying to protect you from something? Or is it just a thought that you've had so many times that you've stopped questioning whether it's even true or not? And I don't believe that the goal is to analyze every single thought that goes through our heads because we would never get anything else done. However, there is something really powerful about becoming familiar with how we talk to ourselves and getting curious about what's going on underneath those thoughts because that voice isn't always telling us the truth.
And that doesn't mean that it's meaningless information either. I've talked quite a bit about intuition on the show. And one way that I have learned to distinguish my intuition from all the other things going on in my head is by paying attention to how it communicates with me. For me, intuition feels kind, loving, compassionate. It can absolutely be surprising and also direct. I've had intuitive messages come through that shocked the shit out of me. I was like, there's no way that that's really what I'm supposed to be doing. But they were things that were not where my conscious mind was going. And I still followed them because underneath the surprise and the unexpectedness of it, there was a knowing there that this was actually what I was supposed to be doing. The other thing is that even when your intuition is speaking to you in a kind and loving way, it can still be a very clear no. Something can be compassionate and still tell you the truth that you would rather not acknowledge. Something can be direct without being cruel and derogatory. There's an important difference there to me because when your mind gets involved, your mind, your ego, the tone can be very different. There is very often judgment attached, there's criticism, there's this strong need to figure out or protect myself from whatever my mind has decided could possibly happen, sending me down the worry path or the land of the unknown. And sometimes it's really loud. Intuition for me doesn't need to yell and scream at me and argue its case. My mind, on the other hand, will take me down a pretty unsupportive path and give me all of the reasons and all of the evidence and then come back several hours later just in case I somehow forgot what it was trying to tell
me. And that voice can be incredibly convincing. This is where the inner critic conversation has become pretty fascinating to me because I think when we hear the words inner critic, we tend to imagine it being a really mean voice, the one that says that you're not good enough, you screwed something up, you look awful today. But what I've been exploring is that the inner critic doesn't sound the same for everybody. You can also have varying versions of an inner critic hitting you at multiple times in a day, even. And it doesn't always sound mean. Sometimes it sounds reasonable, sometimes it sounds very helpful, sometimes it sounds like it is just trying to look out for you and protect you. And that's why we believe it so easily. I recently created a quiz around this because I wanted to explore the different ways that our inner critic can communicate with us. And as I was creating it, what stood out to me was that underneath all of these different voices, there's often some form of protection happening. And instead of hearing a critical thought and immediately trying to get rid of it and dismiss it or argue with it or replace it with something more positive, I can get curious about it. What is this voice really trying to tell me? If I'm telling myself that something has to be absolutely perfect, what am I worried will happen if I don't? If I'm obsessing over whether somebody is upset with me, what's going on underneath that? What is causing that concern? If my mind is demanding that I know exactly what's going to happen before I take a step, what is it trying to protect me from? That's very different from simply saying, ugh, there's my inner critic again. Shut up, go away. I don't want to hear what you have to say. Because now I'm actually listening. I'm not just automatically believing everything it says. And there's a very important distinction there. Listening to yourself doesn't mean believing every thought that you have. We've talked about this recently too. You can listen to the voice, you can notice what it's saying, you can even appreciate that some part of you may be trying to keep you safe. And then you can get curious about whether the thing it's protecting you from is actually a threat in this moment because our minds are really good at trying to protect us from discomfort. And discomfort isn't always danger. We've talked about the difference between fear and danger. And sometimes it's going to be uncomfortable because it's not something that we've done before. So it's unfamiliar, which then kind of sends off all the alarms to ultimately try and stop you. I know I say protect you, but it's to stop you from getting uncomfortable and expanding yourself out of your comfort zone. So this is this all connects, I
promise you. This all connects in such a beautiful way because we do something very similar with our bodies. We feel something and then we immediately decide what it means. You feel nervous and you think, oh my gosh, this must be wrong. But nervousness and excitement can feel really similar in your body. Think about being really excited about something that's also a little scary. Your heart might start to beat faster. You might have butterflies. There can be all kinds of energy moving through your body. So the sensations themselves do matter, but so does the meaning that we're attaching to it. So that's why I don't believe that listening to your body is about memorizing some kind of list of where, let's say, your tight chest means this and butterflies mean that, because that's really your body communicating with you. And the invitation is to become curious about the communication rather than immediately deciding that you already know what it means. And that's really the same thing that we're doing with the voice in our head.
This is where pause, notice, reconnect, and respond continues to be such a simple framework for me because when you pause long enough to recognize that something is happening, you notice the thought, notice the tone, notice what's happening inside of your body, and then reconnect with yourself before you automatically react to whatever's coming up that and then respond. There's space in there. And that space gives us an opportunity to distinguish between a loving, intuitive knowing and a protective voice that's worried about what could happen. And it gives us the opportunity to hear the criticism underneath the criticism and to recognize when an old belief is speaking and sometimes realize, oh, it's just a thought. What's interesting is when you create that spaciousness, it also, even when I say spaciousness, I mean it can happen quickly. You're pausing and interrupting the path that you're going down and getting curious about whatever the thought is, whatever the voice is that you're hearing. And as I've mentioned, even with nervous system regulation practices, you can do this in a matter of seconds. You can pause, you can notice, you can see what's going on. I'm not saying you have to rush the process, but it's not like it's going to take you 30 minutes to sit down and notice and pause what you're doing or what the thought is. Sometimes that space just allows you to realize, oh, that's just a thought. I don't have to make it mean anything. I don't have to get rid of it. I don't have to do anything with it. I just need to notice it. And then I get to decide what happens next. And I don't want this to sound like I have some flawless system where my intuition comes through and I immediately say, Oh, yes, intuition. Thank you so much. I received that message. Because sometimes I have to sit with things too. Sometimes my intuition is there and my mind is in this constant state of chatter, having a lot of things to say about what my intuition is. And your intuition is generally like when you pause and ask yourself a question, it's generally the first thought that comes up, not when you've started dissecting and going down a path. Like it's usually the first thought that you have, which is fascinating to me. Sometimes I recognize my inner critic immediately. And then other times I'm halfway down a rabbit hole before I realize what's happening. This is this is a relationship. And like every relationship we've talked about throughout the series, we get to know it by paying attention. And the more I recognize how my intuition tends to communicate with me, the easier it is to recognize it. The more I understand the ways my mind tries to protect me, the easier it is to recognize that too. Not perfectly. This is this all truly begins with awareness.
All right, we are going to we're gonna move into a card pull. I'm gonna pull a card from the magic of what if card deck volume two today, and see what the message is for us today. What if I focus on what's going well in my life? It's so easy to focus on the negative, the bad, how nothing works out. And honestly, that connects with your inner critic. You know, how judgmental is your inner critic focusing on all of the bad things that have happened that could happen. And what if you focus on what's going well? That doesn't mean that doesn't mean that you're disregarding the difficulties that you're experiencing, but when you can focus on what's going well, because there's gotta be something. We all have something that's going well in our life. Everything isn't a shit show. And so when we shift our focus to not only be on the bad things, it also shifts your energy within you to be able to handle and move through the harder things that are going on. I truly believe that. I truly believe
it. Before we wrap up for today, we are gonna do reflection questions. These will be posted in the show description. If you don't have the time or space, I do hope that you come back and connect with them. So question number one. When I notice the voice in my head, how does it usually speak to me? Not just what's it saying, but what's the tone? Is it critical? Is it loving? Is it judgmental? Does it sound curious or does it sound absolutely certain that something terrible is gonna happen? Question number two, what might that voice be trying to protect me from? Instead of immediately believing it or trying to shut it down and silence it, what happens if I get curious about what's going on underneath that thought, that criticism, that belief? And finally, how do I recognize my intuition when it comes through? So think about moments when you know something without needing to use a bunch of reasoning to get your way there. What did the experience feel like for you? How did it communicate with you? Because learning to listen to yourself isn't just about listening more closely, it's about also learning who you're listening to, your intuition, your inner critic, an old belief, a protective thought. Sometimes I think that people might misunderstand or not not misunderstand, but not necessarily recognize that it's their intuition that's talking to them or talking through them. For example, if I go for a walk and I ask, what direction should I go? And my first thought is go right. That's intuitive guidance. And I can choose to go right or I can choose to go left because I still have free will. I still get to decide. But that's what you're listening for, is what is the guidance that you're receiving? And noticing the difference between the interactive chatter that's happening in your head that is probably not very supportive, which is generally your inner critic trying to protect you from something, and what's real underneath that? They can all be part of the conversation. And the more we become curious about what's actually being communicated to us, the more connected we can become to ourselves. So this week, instead of immediately believing or completely dismissing that voice in your head, pause for a second and ask what are you really trying to tell me? Thank you so much for being here. Have a beautiful, beautiful day and an amazing week. Much love.
